Ted Robinson will return to the booth Sunday to call the 49ers’ next game, and on Monday he was a guest on two KNBR shows. He expressed a lot of the same things with Tom Tolbert and Ray Ratto that he said earlier in the day with Murph and Mac, so I tried to transcribe all the relevant stuff he said without getting too redundant.
A few points Robinson made:
- He’s very thankful for the education he received during his two-week suspension (that link includes a description of what got him in trouble with the 49ers and Pac-12 Network).
- He has not and will not watch the Ray Rice video.
- In both interviews he brought up the outpouring of support he received, that women thanked him for what he said, and how men are also victims of domestic violence.
“Obviously I’ve been amazingly humbled by the support from family, which would be expected. Friends and colleagues, hundreds of messages and support. And I’ve got to tell you something, it’s been the most educational experience I would’ve ever envisioned. The things I’ve learned from colleagues and friends who’ve shared their personal stories about an incredibly sensitive topic, the education I received spending hours last week talking to a professional, someone who spent her career working with victims, both children and adults, actually, of abuse, and learning how powerful this subject is and how many different reasons there are for people to react the way they do.
“To find out that although we always associate this — and it is overwhelmingly a male on female issue — there are male victims. I had a friend reach out to me, a man, explaining to me his past experience. I so deeply thank all these people for sharing their stories. Honestly, the end of it, Murph and Mac, would be to say that what I learned, and unfortunately I took a painful route to learn this, would be a very important thing for society to hear. To have this conversation without the emotional elements, without screaming and yelling that becomes too much of our conversation today, and have it be educational and learning, because out of what was an unwanted and unpleasant situation, the positive that came out for me was 12 days of incredible education.”
There was some discussion about how the NFL needs to make sure all their employees receive education on domestic violence, and then the subject of the Ray Rice video came up.
“Of course because of our culture today, this got overlooked in the entire hysteria. But I made this point two weeks ago on this station was I still haven’t watched the Ray Rice video, guys. I won’t. And I really think it could be for this issue in our country what the Zapruder film was. And the Zapruder film, for those of us of age, was the first time we had ever seen something so violent and so awful on film. We had never seen that before. And we already knew what happened, but the brutality of it lingers to this day with me. I was six years old and I can remember the first time I was able to watch that film. And I think the Ray Rice video, we already knew what happened. That didn’t change, but we had never seen it like that before. And I really truly hope that film can have some sort of a constructive use in addressing for everybody how ugly this situation is.
“And I thank women. I had women who reached out to me and shared their stories and said, ‘This needs to happen because I stayed too long.’ Or, ‘I entered a relationship knowing there was a chance this could happen.’ Or the most powerful one, guys, we all would understand this, I’ve had women thank me saying, ‘My daughters need to hear this.’ And when you get that, again, you’re almost speechless when you hear the power and the personal depth that these stories have.”
“The last point to make before we put this in the rearview mirror is that in a pretty unwanted situation, the education was phenomenal. The education I received was incredible. The outpouring of support, which you expect, you know your family and your friends are going to have your back. But the people who shared stories with me. People who are colleagues of mine, that I’ve known, but I would’ve never known that about them. And they felt willing to share their stories was extraordinary. It was the kind of education that I’m sorry it took this event for me to have it. I hope all of society gets it. I really do.
“I hope there can be … it’s the curse of this format. This format doesn’t allow it. This format is all about yelling and screaming and opining and posturing, sadly. I hope that whether it’s an ESPN, because they have 87 channels, that they can put one aside to do this with some intelligence, or NPR, or PBS, whatever. To learn what I learned.
“To have women thank me for saying what was on the air here. I had women thanking me because their daughters needed to hear it. I had men — we think of this exclusively as a male on female problem — and while overwhelmingly yes, not exclusive. There are men who are victims of female on male abuse. No one wants to talk about that, but it’s true. Anyway, the education in a very unpleasant situation was incredibly powerful.”